Raj had a huge crush on Tina in college. Tina was beautiful, smart & popular. Raj was decent looking, had a good family background, played sports & did well in exams. Raj & Tina were part of the same circle of friends. All of Raj’s friends knew he had a crush on Tina. Raj had wanted to ask Tina out for days. But Raj always felt nervous & insecure around Tina. Thanks to his insecurity & constantly doubting his chances with Tina, he could never muster the courage to ask Tina out. As luck would have it, after a few months Tina started dating another guy from their college. Raj was heart broken. He was angry with himself, that he didn’t even try his luck with the woman he had a such a huge crush on. Raj did get married years later, to a woman his parents chose. But he still can’t wonder how his life would have turned out, had he asked Tina out.
Have you faced these issues too? Do you want to avoid being the next Raj? Men since ages have dreaded taking a step towards asking their crushes out. The most successful men have been at a loss of words, when it came to asking their crushes out, leading to their crushes dating/marrying other men who had the b*&$s to ask them out.
Sow how does one ask his woman out, without having to fear getting rejected? The Opinionated Indian answers it for you
1) Get her phone number: Getting her phone number is the most vital step in dating. Asking her out directly on your first meeting should be avoided at all costs. If she is your college mate/ colleague it is pretty easy in today’s times to get her phone number. All you need to do is ask! Women don’t really hesitate in sharing their phone number with people whom they are familiar with. We would suggest conversing with her a few times before asking for her number. If you meet an attractive lady at a mall or a club or any public place,strike a conversation about how much how much you like/dislike the place or If there is a TV playing the India cricket match, just go next to her & say “India is going to win today” She will probably say ” Yeah. Me too. Kohli is playing well” or “Nah. I am not into sports”. Post which, based on her response you can ask her “Who is your favorite cricketer” or ” So what are you into?” The idea is to say something generic & not come off as a flirt or someone trying to pick them up. After speaking for a 2-3 mins, tell her “it was fun talking to you. We should stay in touch. What is your phone number?” At this point 99% of women will tell you their mobile phone number. It is that simple! Unless you creeped her out, you can rest assured that you will get her digits. Women who are unavailable will also mention about their bf as they give you their mobile number, so you can get the hint.If she doesn’t say anything of that sort, remember to tell her ” Anyway I have some work I have to attend to, I have to leave. See you around”, 2-3 mins post getting her number. Do not spend 3 hours chatting her up & telling her everything there is to know about you. Women love mystery. Do not kill all the suspense on your first interaction.
2) Treat her as your friend: Beautiful women are tired of men constantly trying to get into their pants. A woman conversing with a man regularly is misconstrued by a lot of men, as an expression of interest. If you think so too, then please get this straight, if girl is talking to you, it doesn’t mean she is interested in you. They love it, when a guy is interested in her as a person & not just her X-rated areas. Treat her like a lady & not just as apiece of meat. Do not flirt or lech at her as soon as you meet her (unless she does that first). Do not let her know of your feelings for her right away. Speak to her like she is a normal person & not an angel from heaven. Have normal conversations about topics that are of mutual interest. Women love talking about TV shows, celebs or bitching about mutual friends.
3) What to say over the phone: Once you have her mobile number, we would suggest you wait at least for 24 hours before you text/call her. She will be awaiting your phone call. Texting/calling her immediately will kill all the excitement. Do not send forwards either. This is the biggest mistake which men do. Committing this mistake will take you from “Interesting guy whom i met & might end up dating” & put you in “another guy who is crazy bout me” category. For 24 hours, she will keep looking at her phone, think about the conversation you has & even tell her friends about it. After you call her, do not sound nervous or insecure. Women hate it in man. She too has butterflies in her stomach & is anxious about her first conversation with you. After she pick up the phone ask her “What’s up?”. Do not & I repeat Do not tell her how much you thought about her. Ask her what she is up to & tell her how awesome your day was & how much fun you had with your friends or family. Show her that you are a fun guy, who can show her a good time. Do not tell her how your professor or boss bullied you. She is not your crying shoulder! Tease her like you would tease your younger sibling or your friends (teasing them about their fat butts is not what we are hinting it). Women love it when men imitate them or others around them. Try to make her laugh & keep the conversation fun. The hotter & more popular the woman the more you need to tease her. Hot woman are used to men treating them like goddesses. When you treat her like a normal being, you will stand apart from all the other guys who are trying to woo her. Your conversation should not last more than 10-15 mins. Post which you excuse yourself saying you have important work to attend to. Like we said earlier, keep the mystery around you alive. She will be dying to know more about you. Do not kill the suspense early on.
4) Asking her Out: If you do not muster the courage to ask her out post 1-2 weeks, you risk getting friend zoned. Post 1-2 weeks of texting her 2-3 times & talking to her for 10-15 mins everyday, you should ask her out. Now is the time to overcome your fear of rejection. Men fear the embarrassment of the world knowing that they got rejected or how the girl might stop talking to them if they ask her out. Firstly, you need to stop putting undue pressure on yourself. You are not the first guy in the world to get rejected & you won’t be the last. Even celebs get rejected by their crushes! So take a chill pill. If you are not confident of her approval, the best way out is to ask her to join you for an activity. Ask her ” I am going shopping tomorrow. You wanna come along?” If she says yes, you can then ask her “We can go for a movie, post that”. At this point she is most likely to say yes. In the unlikely event of her saying no, you need to dial down on your phone calls & texts & try again after a week. If she rejects you again, do not call her for a few days in between. If she doesn’t call you then she is not interested in you & just wanted to make herself feel better about herself by getting your attention (women do that). Stop talking to her & look for other women. If she ever accuses you of having a crush on her, you can call her crazy for assuming such a thing. Tell her ” I just thought of you as a friend & wanted to go shopping with you, because it is boring to go shopping alone”. That should set such women straight. If she doesn’t accuse you of having a crush on her & if she calls after a few days, tell her you were busy. If she asks you why you are acting strange. Then tell her “I am not like the other guys whom you treat like trash. I don’t feel you respect me. I asked you to join me for shopping twice & you couldn’t even spare time for that!” At this point she will have new found respect for you & will not dare to take you lightly. She will not dare to turn you down ever!
What to do on your date? That is our next article. Write to us at theopinionatedindian@yahoo.com
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Attraction Killers: Things Men Do That Kills the Attraction With Women
You may think the best way to a woman’s heart is to flatter her constantly. Hey, that is what our movies & TV shows have thought us right? Unfortunately, those nodding in agreement are completely wrong. Although women will never admit to it, but they look down on men who keep flirting & flattering them all the time. You can rest assured that you will be friend zoned if you keep complimenting her all the time & showering her with attention (unless she has severe self esteem issues or you are filthy rich). Compliment her only when you think she deserves it & not just for the heck of it.
The Opinionated Indian lists out the various things that women find repulsive in a man. Things that kill the attraction the woman has for you.
1) One Liners: In my lifetime, I am yet to see one instance when a corny one liner has worked on woman. They work only when a woman uses it! Please stop using those one liners to start a conversation with a woman & just talk to her casually to break the ice.
2) Women hate it when men keep glancing at their breasts, during a conversation[/caption] Looking at her X-rated areas: To slyly glance at her assets is one thing & staring at them throughout is a totally different ball game altogether. Women hate it when men constantly keep looking at their boobs/ass. They prefer men who do not look at them as mere sex objects & respect them as equals.
3) Constantly Seeking Her Approval: This is the best way to get friend zoned! Women hate a man who is not in charge & keeps seeking their approval on everything. If she doesn’t like something she will tell you, trust me! If you ask her out for a movie & she accepts, tell her which movie you want to watch or if you are at a restaurant you suggest the dishes which she should taste. Let her respond to your suggestions. Do let her have it her way, if she strongly persists. But, do not always let things go as per her choices. Do not hesitate to put your foot down, if she is always the one deciding or else she will start treating you like her doormat.
4) Low Self Esteem: Women can smell a man with low self esteem a mile away. They hate men with low self esteem & self confidence issues. Women dig men with high self esteem & amazing amounts of confidence. Don’t let her know, that you or your family or your friends think of you as a loser!
5) Stingy: It is one thing to be frugal & a different thing to be stingy. Women can easily spot the difference. Women are programmed to look at their dates as good providers, who will keep them secure from harm, irrespective of whether they are looking for a relationship/getting married/just get laid. Hence, men who take women to cheap places or make their women travel by bus or in extreme cases make her walk a lot are most likely to get rejected. We totally understand you have budget constraints, but that shouldn’t stop you from taking her out for a movie at a decent theatre or dinner at a family restaurant & travel by cab/rickshaw (unless you both are from the lower strata of society). If she is too demanding & keeps insisting on premium restaurants, expensive clothing & is too high maintainence, it is better you get rid of her!
6) Touch: You may think, you slyly brushing your hands against her boobs or trying to get close or “touching her everywhere in a friendly way” went unnoticed, then you are completely wrong. Not only did she notice your inappropriate touch, she will also tell all her friends & family about what a creep you. You need to be ostracized you perv!! On the other hand, not touching her ever will increase awkwardness between you both. Greet her with a friendly hug when you meet her & when you drop her off. Frontal hugs are more effective than side hugs.
7) Constant messaging or calling: Women just hate it when you are always available. Men who constantly text or call their crush are most likely to get friend zoned. Even if she keeps texting or calling you, do not stay constantly in touch. Give her the gift of MISSING YOU!! . If you are busy, do not hesitate to tell her you will get back to her. Trust us, she will not run away. Women love a man in command & not seeking their approval.
When you are not texting or calling her, she will keep thinking about you & think of all the fun moments she had with you. Constantly conversing kills the excitement thanks to the law of diminishing marginal utility & makes you look boring. One of the most common reasons why guys get friend zoned!
8) Don’t get hen pegged: Women lose attraction to men who always do as told. They love macho men who clearly know what they want & will not compromise. Keep in mind, we are not asking you to always oppose her. But, if you strongly disagree to what she wants or has to say, make it clear to her & stand by your principles. If you do not muster the courage to speak your mind, she will dump you for being a loser anyway!
9) Compliments: Complimenting her for fer figure is a strict no no! When it comes to compliments, do it in a way which doesn’t give away that you are dying to get into her pants. Compliments like ” You smell good, whci perfume is that?” or “You are looking good” at the start of the date are totally acceptable. But, please restrict the number of compliments to 1-2 per date.
10) Telling her how you feel: We have saved the most repulsive habit for the last. When you meet an attractive woman, you start a sort of a dance. Women love drama, whereas men hate it. women love the romance to unfold at a slow pace. Whereas men just love it, when a woman just walks up to them & asks them to take them to nearest hotel. Telling a woman how you feel, very early on kills the attraction & gives her total control over you. Like we said earlier, women love macho men who are not easily controlled. Keep the suspense on by not proposing to her & by teasing her. Accuse her of having the hots for you in a playful manner & see how she reacts. If she smiles when you do it, you have a very good chance with her. If she starts yelling & fuming at the suggestion, then get the hint! Do not propose to her until you are supremely confident of her saying yes. In fact, we suggest you to keep dropping subtle hints that you are into her & never really saying it out loud, until she makes it obvious that she is into you.
Keep these things in mind & see your success rate with women go up drastically. Do mail us success stories to theopinionatedindian@yahoo.com
Dating Tips: How to Make Her Fall for You
You managed to get a right swipe from her on tinder or mustered up the courage to ask her out, but post a few dates you just couldn’t get her to go from friend to your girl friend. She laid the “Let’s just be friends” or “It’s not you it’s me” line on you. All this, despite having a killer body after hours spent working out in the gym or earning well? Happens to you a lot? Going crazy trying to understand how that not so good looking friend of yours keeps getting laid all the time? You are not alone! This is an issue plaguing a lot of men in our country & across the world. The Opinionated Indian too faced these issues for the longest time & vowed to take care of this nagging problem for good.
So what is it that one must do or mustn’t do to increase his success among women? The Opinionated Indian lists out the golden rules of dating women & improving your chances with them.
1) Confidence: Women love a confident man. Think of any celebrity or even your neighbourhood/college playboy & you can’t help but notice the amazing amount of confidence they portray when around beautiful women. How much ever insecure you may be, NEVER NEVER let it show. Look in the mirror before you leave for your date & tell yourself that you are the rockstar that women dream of or anything that makes you feel more confident around women. Remember she too is just human, with her own set of flaws. She ain’t perfect!
2) Chivalry: Many women seem to agree, that chivalry doesn’t exist among men today. Women love a man who holds the door for them, pulls the chair for them & respects them. This trait will set you apart from a lot of other men. A lady won’t be impressed with where you take her out & how much you spend, but on how well you treat her.
3) Stop Seeking Her Approval: This is the best way to get friend zoned! Women hate a man who is not in charge & keeps seeking their approval on everything. If she doesn’t like something she will tell you, trust me! If you ask her out for a movie & she accepts, tell her which movie you want to watch or if you are at a restaurant you suggest the dishes which she should taste. Let her respond to your suggestions. Do let her have it her way, if she strongly persists. But, do not always let things go as per her choices. Do not hesitate to put your foot down, if she is always the one deciding or else she will start treating you like her doormat.
4) Tease her: Remember those not so good looking girls in school, whom you always kept teasing & instead of hating or yelling at you, they went crazy vying for you attention? On the other hand, you were nice to the hottest girl in class & she never gave you any attention? Well if you haven’t figured it out already, let us elaborate. Women love men who treat them as normal human beings & not angels from heaven. Being chivalrous is one thing, but being extra nice is a very repulsive trait to have. Women love men who tease them & are playful. Women hate men who treat them like a goddess & have only nice things to say. Keep teasing her throughout your date about various things for example if she’s short & is wearing heels ask her “How much do these heels add to your height…two feet?”If she is too fair, call her dark skinned, if she is tall, call her shorty or if she is she is going on & on about a certain topic, yawn dramatically & look away, tell her how interesting that sounds.There may be some topics which she may be sensitive about, figure what they are & don’t joke about them. She won’t know what hit her. Accuse her of being interested in you & not the other way round. if she smiles on hearing this, you can be pretty sure that she is into you. If she gets angry, you need to either work harder or move on.
5) Make Conversations Interesting: Women love men with whom they can have long conversations with. Such men seem interesting & attractive. Like they say ” Men fall in love, with what they see & women fall in love, with what they hear”. On your date don’t go on & on about your workplace politics or how sad your life is or the intricacies of software programming or marine biology. Watch the latest TV shows, listen to the most popular songs & do read up on celebrity gossip. Women love gossiping about their favorite celebs & develop an instant liking for people who do the same. Sound positive & energetic. Speak enthusiastically when mentioning about your future plans or your life in general. She is not your mother or agony aunt with whom you can share your worries with. At least not till you are in a relationship. Do not sound negative when she asks about your weekend plans. We would suggest going for a movie first & then following it up with a dinner, so that you have enough to talk about. Find out what topics interest her & read up a a bit about those topics if possible, but don’t over do it or you might come across as fake. Do not tell her how few friends you have or how you spend most nights just lying on your sofa watching TV & falling asleep after jerking off on porn! Make her believe that you lead an exciting life with lots of activities & how happy you are with your life. Don’t tell her how desperate you are trying to get laid, or get a girl friend, in fact tell her you are just looking for a friend. Women hate desperate men & can smell one from miles afar.
6) Passion: Women love passionate men. Show how passionate you are about photography or sports or travelling. Speak about your various experiences while indulging in your passion. It makes for interesting conversation & will make you sound more interesting.
7) Be Stingy with Compliments: As mentioned earlier, don’t go all gooey eyed & treat her like an angel from heaven. Go easy on the compliments. Restrict it to 1-2 per date. She has worked really hard getting ready for you, so do remember to tell her she looks nice/good, but that’s it. Some men just keep complimenting the girl on everything, right from her hair, to her clothes, to just about everything. This ends up totally spoiling their chances. Remember what we told you about seeking her approval?
8) Venue: For lunch or dinner dates, we recommend you to take her out to a restaurant where you frequent. The familiar setting will make you feel more confident & help erase nervousness around your date.A good restaurant which you frequent with family/ friends will be preferred to a Mc Donald’s or KFC type of setting. She will be impressed when she sees the manager of the hotel & waiters greeting you warmly as you enter.
9) Stay Fit: If you are not fit already, please do put on your shoes & start jogging regularly. Looks aren’t everything, but are a important part of attracting women. Fit looking men, find it way easier to attract women, as compared to unfit ones. Clothes look better on you, you are less insecure & you end up feeling more confident. Unfit men are always insecure about their looks & this ends up with them having self image issues. Although looks are god given, how fit you are is totally in your hands.
10) Don’t be a jerk: Do not list out the long line of fake women you have dated or constantly compare your date with your exes. Be nice to the theatre staff or restaurant managers/waiters. Women hate men who are rude to others.But do not let her wreck your self respect, put her in her place if she disrespects you. Please don’t keep staring at her X-rated parts while she is having a conversation with you.
11)Fashion & Style: Unless you are Salman Khan, please do not go on your date wearing pink torn jeans Or flowery shirt. Stick to blue jeans & solid color shirts or T-shirts from a reputed brand, unless you are from showbiz/fashion industry & are supremely confident of what you are doing. You may opt for that trendy haircut, but get that done from a salon & not your neighbourhood barbershop. A nice haircut, good clothes& a good perfume go a long way in impressing women.
12) Hygiene: All the tips will fall flat, if you don’t have your basic hygiene in place. Please do your date & the world a favor by showering, brushing your teeth before going on that date. Cut your nails & nostrils regularly. If your date is coming home, please tidy up the place in advance. Do use a deo & or a perfume regularly. Trim your beard or shave on days which you are going out with her without fail.
Follow these instructions strictly & we assure you of vastly improving your chances with your dream date.
So are we asking you to lie about yourself, to your woman? Well…it’s more like photoshopping your life actually 😉
Celeb Gossip – June’17
Sources inform us that the country’s biggest superstar & his ex, both currently single, are giving their relationship another chance. Industry insiders cant stop secretly admiring the actress who post her split with another young superstar, was written off by bollywood biggies. The few films she appeared in flopped. She had barely any work to speak off. But when you the country’s biggest superstar on your side, things automatically fall into place. She shrewdly seduced the superstar & rekindled their romance.
He made a director cast his ex & even made some of his family members cast his ex in films they were producing. As they say in Bollywood, it is not just talent, it is whom you know, that matters. While the actress has not been linked to anyone post her famous breakup, the superstar – known for his womanizing ways, was dating a european & intended to marry her by the year end. But, things didn’t work out….luckily for our actress! She as usual wants to keep things low key & won’t make the relationship public.