How To Get Her Phone Number & Ask Her Out

Raj had a huge crush on Tina in college. Tina was beautiful, smart & popular. Raj was decent looking, had a good family background, played sports & did well in exams. Raj & Tina were part of the same circle of friends. All of Raj’s friends knew he had a crush on Tina. Raj had wanted to ask Tina out for days. But Raj always felt nervous & insecure around Tina. Thanks to his insecurity & constantly doubting his chances with Tina, he could never muster the courage to ask Tina out. As luck would have it, after a few months Tina started dating another guy from their college. Raj was heart broken. He was angry with himself, that he didn’t even try his luck with the woman he had a such a huge crush on. Raj did get married years later, to a woman his parents chose. But he still can’t wonder how his life would have turned out, had he asked Tina out.




Have you faced these issues too? Do you want to avoid being the next Raj? Men since ages have dreaded taking a step towards asking their crushes out. The most successful men have been at a loss of words, when it came to asking their crushes out, leading to their crushes dating/marrying other men who had the b*&$s to ask them out.
Sow how does one ask his woman out, without having to fear getting rejected? The Opinionated Indian answers it for you
1) Get her phone number: Getting her phone number is the most vital step in dating. Asking her out directly on your first meeting should be avoided at all costs. If she is your college mate/ colleague it is pretty easy in today’s times to get her phone number. All you need to do is ask! Women don’t really hesitate in sharing their phone number with people whom they are familiar with. We would suggest conversing with her a few times before asking for her number. If you meet an attractive lady at a mall or a club or any public place,strike a conversation about how much how much you like/dislike the place or If there is a TV playing the India cricket match, just go next to her & say “India is going to win today” She will probably say ” Yeah. Me too. Kohli is playing well” or “Nah. I am not into sports”. Post which, based on her response you can ask her “Who is your favorite cricketer” or ” So what are you into?” The idea is to say something generic & not come off as a flirt or someone trying to pick them up. After speaking for a 2-3 mins, tell her “it was fun talking to you. We should stay in touch. What is your phone number?” At this point 99% of women will tell you their mobile phone number. It is that simple! Unless you creeped her out, you can rest assured that you will get her digits. Women who are unavailable will also mention about their bf as they give you their mobile number, so you can get the hint.If she doesn’t say anything of that sort, remember to tell her ” Anyway I have some work I have to attend to, I have to leave. See you around”, 2-3 mins post getting her number. Do not spend 3 hours chatting her up & telling her everything there is to know about you. Women love mystery. Do not kill all the suspense on your first interaction.
2) Treat her as your friend: Beautiful women are tired of men constantly trying to get into their pants. A woman conversing with a man regularly is misconstrued by a lot of men, as an expression of interest. If you think so too, then please get this straight, if girl is talking to you, it doesn’t mean she is interested in you. They love it, when a guy is interested in her as a person & not just her X-rated areas. Treat her like a lady & not just as apiece of meat. Do not flirt or lech at her as soon as you meet her (unless she does that first). Do not let her know of your feelings for her right away. Speak to her like she is a normal person & not an angel from heaven. Have normal conversations about topics that are of mutual interest. Women love talking about TV shows, celebs or bitching about mutual friends.

3) What to say over the phone: Once you have her mobile number, we would suggest you wait at least for 24 hours before you text/call her. She will be awaiting your phone call. Texting/calling her immediately will kill all the excitement. Do not send forwards either. This is the biggest mistake which men do. Committing this mistake will take you from “Interesting guy whom i met & might end up dating” & put you in “another guy who is crazy bout me” category. For 24 hours, she will keep looking at her phone, think about the conversation you has & even tell her friends about it. After you call her, do not sound nervous or insecure. Women hate it in man. She too has butterflies in her stomach & is anxious about her first conversation with you. After she pick up the phone ask her “What’s up?”. Do not & I repeat Do not tell her how much you thought about her. Ask her what she is up to & tell her how awesome your day was & how much fun you had with your friends or family. Show her that you are a fun guy, who can show her a good time. Do not tell her how your professor or boss bullied you. She is not your crying shoulder! Tease her like you would tease your younger sibling or your friends (teasing them about their fat butts is not what we are hinting it). Women love it when men imitate them or others around them. Try to make her laugh & keep the conversation fun. The hotter & more popular the woman the more you need to tease her. Hot woman are used to men treating them like goddesses. When you treat her like a normal being, you will stand apart from all the other guys who are trying to woo her. Your conversation should not last more than 10-15 mins. Post which you excuse yourself saying you have important work to attend to. Like we said earlier, keep the mystery around you alive. She will be dying to know more about you. Do not kill the suspense early on.




4) Asking her Out: If you do not muster the courage to ask her out post 1-2 weeks, you risk getting friend zoned. Post 1-2 weeks of texting her 2-3 times & talking to her for 10-15 mins everyday, you should ask her out. Now is the time to overcome your fear of rejection. Men fear the embarrassment of the world knowing that they got rejected or how the girl might stop talking to them if they ask her out. Firstly, you need to stop putting undue pressure on yourself. You are not the first guy in the world to get rejected & you won’t be the last. Even celebs get rejected by their crushes! So take a chill pill. If you are not confident of her approval, the best way out is to ask her to join you for an activity. Ask her ” I am going shopping tomorrow. You wanna come along?” If she says yes, you can then ask her “We can go for a movie, post that”. At this point she is most likely to say yes. In the unlikely event of her saying no, you need to dial down on your phone calls & texts & try again after a week. If she rejects you again, do not call her for a few days in between. If she doesn’t call you then she is not interested in you & just wanted to make herself feel better about herself by getting your attention (women do that). Stop talking to her & look for other women. If she ever accuses you of having a crush on her, you can call her crazy for assuming such a thing. Tell her ” I just thought of you as a friend & wanted to go shopping with you, because it is boring to go shopping alone”. That should set such women straight. If she doesn’t accuse you of having a crush on her & if she calls after a few days, tell her you were busy. If she asks you why you are acting strange. Then tell her “I am not like the other guys whom you treat like trash. I don’t feel you respect me. I asked you to join me for shopping twice & you couldn’t even spare time for that!” At this point she will have new found respect for you & will not dare to take you lightly. She will not dare to turn you down ever!
What to do on your date? That is our next article. Write to us at theopinionatedindian@yahoo.com



Attraction Killers: Things Men Do That Kills the Attraction With Women

You may think the best way to a woman’s heart is to flatter her constantly. Hey, that is what our movies & TV shows have thought us right? Unfortunately, those nodding in agreement are completely wrong. Although women will never admit to it, but they look down on men who keep flirting & flattering them all the time. You can rest assured that you will be friend zoned if you keep complimenting her all the time & showering her with attention (unless she has severe self esteem issues or you are filthy rich). Compliment her only when you think she deserves it & not just for the heck of it.




The Opinionated Indian lists out the various things that women find repulsive in a man. Things that kill the attraction the woman has for you.

1) One Liners: In my lifetime, I am yet to see one instance when a corny one liner has worked on woman. They work only when a woman uses it! Please stop using those one liners to start a conversation with a woman & just talk to her casually to break the ice.

Women hate it, when keep staring at their breasts during a conversation

2) Women hate it when men keep glancing at their breasts, during a conversation[/caption] Looking at her X-rated areas: To slyly glance at her assets is one thing & staring at them throughout is a totally different ball game altogether. Women hate it when men constantly keep looking at their boobs/ass. They prefer men who do not look at them as mere sex objects & respect them as equals.
3) Constantly Seeking Her Approval: This is the best way to get friend zoned! Women hate a man who is not in charge & keeps seeking their approval on everything. If she doesn’t like something she will tell you, trust me! If you ask her out for a movie & she accepts, tell her which movie you want to watch or if you are at a restaurant you suggest the dishes which she should taste. Let her respond to your suggestions. Do let her have it her way, if she strongly persists. But, do not always let things go as per her choices. Do not hesitate to put your foot down, if she is always the one deciding or else she will start treating you like her doormat.
4) Low Self Esteem: Women can smell a man with low self esteem a mile away. They hate men with low self esteem & self confidence issues. Women dig men with high self esteem & amazing amounts of confidence. Don’t let her know, that you or your family or your friends think of you as a loser!
5) Stingy: It is one thing to be frugal & a different thing to be stingy. Women can easily spot the difference. Women are programmed to look at their dates as good providers, who will keep them secure from harm, irrespective of whether they are looking for a relationship/getting married/just get laid. Hence, men who take women to cheap places or make their women travel by bus or in extreme cases make her walk a lot are most likely to get rejected. We totally understand you have budget constraints, but that shouldn’t stop you from taking her out for a movie at a decent theatre or dinner at a family restaurant & travel by cab/rickshaw (unless you both are from the lower strata of society). If she is too demanding & keeps insisting on premium restaurants, expensive clothing & is too high maintainence, it is better you get rid of her!
6) Touch: You may think, you slyly brushing your hands against her boobs or trying to get close or “touching her everywhere in a friendly way” went unnoticed, then you are completely wrong. Not only did she notice your inappropriate touch, she will also tell all her friends & family about what a creep you. You need to be ostracized you perv!! On the other hand, not touching her ever will increase awkwardness between you both. Greet her with a friendly hug when you meet her & when you drop her off. Frontal hugs are more effective than side hugs.
Constant texting & or calling, kills the excitement. It will eventually kill the attraction

7) Constant messaging or calling: Women just hate it when you are always available. Men who constantly text or call their crush are most likely to get friend zoned. Even if she keeps texting or calling you, do not stay constantly in touch. Give her the gift of MISSING YOU!! . If you are busy, do not hesitate to tell her you will get back to her. Trust us, she will not run away. Women love a man in command & not seeking their approval.
When you are not texting or calling her, she will keep thinking about you & think of all the fun moments she had with you. Constantly conversing kills the excitement thanks to the law of diminishing marginal utility & makes you look boring. One of the most common reasons why guys get friend zoned!




8) Don’t get hen pegged: Women lose attraction to men who always do as told. They love macho men who clearly know what they want & will not compromise. Keep in mind, we are not asking you to always oppose her. But, if you strongly disagree to what she wants or has to say, make it clear to her & stand by your principles. If you do not muster the courage to speak your mind, she will dump you for being a loser anyway!
9) Compliments: Complimenting her for fer figure is a strict no no! When it comes to compliments, do it in a way which doesn’t give away that you are dying to get into her pants. Compliments like ” You smell good, whci perfume is that?” or “You are looking good” at the start of the date are totally acceptable. But, please restrict the number of compliments to 1-2 per date.
10) Telling her how you feel: We have saved the most repulsive habit for the last. When you meet an attractive woman, you start a sort of a dance. Women love drama, whereas men hate it. women love the romance to unfold at a slow pace. Whereas men just love it, when a woman just walks up to them & asks them to take them to nearest hotel. Telling a woman how you feel, very early on kills the attraction & gives her total control over you. Like we said earlier, women love macho men who are not easily controlled. Keep the suspense on by not proposing to her & by teasing her. Accuse her of having the hots for you in a playful manner & see how she reacts. If she smiles when you do it, you have a very good chance with her. If she starts yelling & fuming at the suggestion, then get the hint! Do not propose to her until you are supremely confident of her saying yes. In fact, we suggest you to keep dropping subtle hints that you are into her & never really saying it out loud, until she makes it obvious that she is into you.

Keep these things in mind & see your success rate with women go up drastically. Do mail us success stories to theopinionatedindian@yahoo.com